Have you ever felt overwhelmed by fear — so much so that it prevented you from doing something you wanted to do?
Believe it or not, this is a common problem faced by many people every single day. Fear has the power to hold you back from taking risks, following your dreams or becoming successful at anything you attempt to do. If you allow it to control you for long enough, it can eventually erode your quality of life and keep you locked in a prison of inactivity.
What many people fail to realize is that fear is nothing more than a conditioned response. It’s a natural reaction to a frightening or unfamiliar situation.
In a previous post, I listed 10 of the most common fears that can stand in the way of allowing us to achieve what we want.
But while fear is usually automatic, there are things you can do to break free of it.
Emotional Freedom Techniques
EFT, which you may also know as tapping, is one of the most effective ways to overcome fear that I have found.
It’s a technique that I have used personally on many occasions with success. For instance, recently, I went skating with my grandson for the first time in more than 20 years. But with just a few taps, I was able to overcome my fear of getting back on the ice, and went from awful to amazing!
I’ve used EFT to help my mother when she was in hospital and fearing death. Just acknowledging her fears while tapping calmed her down. She was able to go from being too scared to speak to turning very talkative in no time.
And, in The Rose Remedy, we often use EFT regularly with clients to help eliminate all sorts of fears that cause stress reactions.
If you want to learn more about how EFT can help conquer your fears, have a look at the video below featuring Kerry Garnier talking about fears and how tapping can reduce them. Kerry is an educator and a certified EFT coach who works with The Rose Remedy to help clients reduce their stress.
There are also other things that you can do to conquer your fears. Here are three other suggestions:
Check your expectations
One major contributor of fear is the prevalence of negative expectations.
Do you usually find yourself expecting the worst in every situation? Do you worry obsessively about what could go wrong, rather than focusing on your strengths and capabilities?
If you make a conscious effort to expect the best, see the positive side of each situation and keep reminding yourself that you can handle more than you think, you’ll find yourself with much less fear to deal with.
Even if feelings of fear do manage to creep into your consciousness, you’ll still be able to keep them in perspective and balance them against an underlying sense of confidence.
Discredit your fears
Experts will tell you that the majority of things you fear will never come to pass. While this may be true, it sure doesn’t feel that way when fear has a chokehold on you! However, if you look a little more closely at your fears when they arise, you may be able to dismiss at least a few.
For example, if you have a fear of public speaking but you want to give a presentation, you might feel like your entire business reputation is on the line. You may fear stumbling over your words or worry that your colleagues will lose respect for you if you don’t do a good job.
But is any of this likely to happen? In most cases, no. Rather than spend your time worrying about what “might” happen if you don’t give a solid presentation, spend it brainstorming ways to help improve your performance, such as being well-prepared, practicing your delivery on friends and family members, writing notes to yourself and so on.
Do the very thing you fear
When you remember that fear is simply a feeling, it loses much of its power. It can’t harm you. Except in truly threatening situations, you can choose to ignore it and move forward.
If you weigh the pros and cons in any situation, you may decide that the possibility of negative consequences is minimal, so there’s nothing to stop you from ignoring your fear and going for it!
You will determine this on a case-by-case basis, of course. The point isn’t to become reckless with your decision-making but, rather, to empower yourself to know when a fear is groundless and easily overcome.