I had the opportunity to remind my husband of this while on our Africa trip. He used to travel a lot for business, so he holds the belief that travelling by plane to get from one place to another is filled with inconveniences — which makes it that way for him.
At one point during our Africa trip, he was huffing and puffing, and almost going in circles, missing the fastest and easiest pathway because he was so frustrated with lineups.
Later on the trip, we discussed his attitude at that time. I asked him whether he’d rather feel the appreciation for the opportunity to take such a fabulous trip, or focus on the annoyances of travel. His answer was the former, but he said he just forgets to realize it in the moment. He asked me to do something to help him remember: the next time it happened, I would give him a gentle reminder by putting my hand on my heart.
And so, on the way home, I occasionally put my hand on my heart to remind him to take a few slower, deeper breaths and bring up the energy-renewing feelings of appreciation. He did and we both had a more pleasant journey home.